A tribute to the first love of our lives, Mom!

Finally! The day solely dedicated to the fairies of our lives,our mums! A holiday honoring motherhood, observed in different phases around the globe. This year, it occurs on 10th May, 2020. Mother’s day started as an anti war movement. In the years before the Civil War, Anna Reeves Jarvis initiated the “Mothers Day Work Clubs” to educate women on how to properly care for their children. These clubs later became a unifying and harmonizing force in a country divided by the great war.  Then in 1908, her daughter Anna Maria Jarvis, started a campaign in remembrance of her mum’s noble service and compassionate nature. It was her dear wish to have a day to remember selfless mothers and their love for their children. Pairing up with a Philadelphian department store owner, she organized the first ever mother’s day celebration at a Methodist Church in Grafton,West Virginia and to her surprise thousands of people attended it. Later on, it became an official U. S. holiday in 1914. She found it, I hope we don’t lose it.

This mother’s day will be hard on most of us, with lockdown in it’s full force some of us are forced to stay away from our moms whilst the rest of us and stuck happily at our homes with them. But today I don’t want this post to be JUST about mothers that have kids,a husband and/or a place to call home. I want to acknowledge and glorify each and every woman that has ever  been a mother or wants to be one or has chosen not to be one,for life. Far too many women, far too many times have been mom-shamed by their very own kith and kin. “Oh, your daughter doesn’t speak to you anymore? You poor thing” Or “Dono betiyaan hn? It’s alright yaar, ab jiski jasi qismat. Only if you had listened to me and eaten that stale bread!” Oh or, “I know you’re a single mom didi, but still put on that toe ring. You don’t wanna attract unnecessary attention from those local goons out there that prey on widowed women any and every chance they get!” and then they wonder why mothers experience lower satisfaction with Mother’s Day than fathers do with Father’s Day.

Wow, now I understand why Anna Jarvis instantly regretted her decision of coming up with such an event and denounced it as a holiday, it was because humans ruin everything. 😏 Over commercialisation and cheap marketing gimmicks to sell specialized goods on mother’s day outing a negative effect on the day takes away the true meaning of mother’s day. This piece of writing and a huge space in my heart goes out to each and every,any one of you that have/has strained and exhausted mother-child relationships, have lost their mothers/children, single parents that have to be both moms and dads,those that don’t wish to be mothers and also those that are yearning to be one(your time will come soon) and also to the families denied the chance to celebrate Mother’s Day. We’re thinking of you and you deserve to be celebrated today as much as the amazing person sitting right next to you. Not just today, everyday. 💕

On a lighter note, did you know that more calls are made on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year? Completely justified after all there’s something so so special about mums! We love them. Each time she wakes up at 8:00 AM stating that it’s actually 10! Or each time she makes us our favorite food without letting us into the kitchen and also when she forces the hell out of us to help her do the dishes only to complain about us being incompetent. We can’t stand her getting mad at our clothing choices but absolutely dread it when she isn’t there to help us drape that saree! She saves us from dad each time hell breaks loose on us but nobody can save us from her wrath. We miss her each time we’re in the metro and have no one to call, to boast/complain about our day, we miss her even She’s our favorite cook, teacher, fashion icon, make-up pro, counsellor, BFF and lover! And as long as we have her by our side, there’s no problem that can’t be solved, no world that can’t be conquered and no villain that won’t surrender.

This mother’s day, be the kid your mom always wanted you to be and tell her that she’s the mom you always wanted her to be, only generously better. She’s in you, me and every other person we come across, she’s in that friend that just won’t let you have another drink and help you sober up or your house help that cooks you your favorite meal whenever she notices you to be in a gloomy mood and even in that teacher that scolds you for not hustling hard enough and being lazy. She’s in that stranger that helps you with that complicated metro wali machine and in that doctor who schools you on being conscious and heedful of your gut health. She in fact isn’t even a person anymore, but more of a feeling. A very kind, affectionate, thoughtful vibe we know is present around us. This mother’s day, don’t just celebrate the mums around us but also the mums in us, commemorating not just mothers but also motherhood. Also,don’t forget to give your mom the best gift a parent could ever get, the gift of yourself!